First there was burnout, then boreout and now blissout. What is it?

Burnout is a psychological term for the experience of long-term exhaustion and diminished interest. Maslach and her colleague Jackson first identified the construct "burnout" in the 1970s and developed a measure that weighs the effects of emotional exhaustion and reduced sense of personal accomplishment.

Boreout is a management theory that explains that lack of work, boredom, and consequent lack of satisfaction are a common malaise affecting individuals working in modern organizations, especially in office-based white collar jobs. This theory was first expounded in 2008 in Diagnosis Boreout, a book by Peter Werder and Philippe Rothlin, two Swiss business consultants.

Blissout was defined by Martin, a Tantra teacher from the International school of Tantra in 2008 as: Stress and fatigue in body and mind due to excessive energies related to great joy or euphoria, characterized by over-engagement in the seemingly impossible.

Bliss out (not blissout) is a fairly new phrasal verb and it is usually used more by young people.
"I blessed out on the beach all week." It is also used to promote many products: "Try these new vanilla-scented products and bliss out." Bliss out means to become very happy, content and relaxed, or to make someone else feel this way.

Someone wrote to Martin and described the need to escape from blissout in the following words: "I'm finding myself stuck in a cycle that I want out of. This same energy keeps coming up in my life and I am so frustrated with it. I feel I have tried to change it in many ways and it has not shifted. I am tired from fighting so hard to make it different and I'm now feeling depleted and needy. I mean REALLY stuck, not just kinda. This cycle has been going on for about 1 and a half years and I'm so done with it! Please help me!"

Blissout sufferers tend to be characterised as "warm and empathetic" In addition, the nature of these people is such that their social relationships are largely one-sided. Caring too much can hurt. Indulging too much can hurt. When "caregivers" focus on others without practicing authentic, ongoing self-care, then destructive "living the dream" behaviours can surface. Madame Curie died of radiation poisoning, she died of her over-engagement.

Women in Tantra run a high risk of developing blissout, as women tend to give more in relationships with others, as pleasing and serving others is inherent in their nature.

Characteristics of people running a high risk of developing blissout include; a difficulty in saying "no", a need to prove their newly discovered divine worth and a commitment to share their ecstatic being with everyone they come in close contact with.

Does this refer to you? Wanting to know it all? Wanting to experience more through "real" intimacy? Wanting to go deeper? Wanting higher peaks, deeper depths, wanting to reach the bottom of profound things? Longing for something in return? Is there a chronic grappling with a profound sense of vulnerability or uncertainty about your favourite state of being?

Have you given yourself away? "Damned if you do, damned if you don't." "Damned if you stay, damned if you leave." Are you rationalising everything in relation to The Divine, The Energy, The Great Power? Are you driven by the openness, the vastness because of the absence of being controlled by the mind? Are you constantly in bliss?

WHAT BELIEFS CONTRIBUTE TO BLISS-OUT?
I should be "ecstatic'" all the time and should not experience problems like other people.
Satisfaction in helping others is reward enough for me.
My efforts will always be rewarded by the universe.

Deep down many people would like to be like me.
I can influence others profoundly through my efforts.

WHAT TO DO?
i) Get proper and sufficient support; find someone trained in blissout intervention.
ii) Confront denial about what is really going on; what have you established the last year that will remain even when you walk away from it?
iii) Indulge in natural things; have focused energy on planting a tree and be in a position to care for it.
iv) Acquire and apply skills for turning options into productive attitudes and actions.

Martin was quoted saying: "The state of bliss is only a stepping stone towards a restful/alert state of being. Don't miss out on life by getting stuck in bliss! It is just the last hurdle before the finish line.

Start to live your life! It isn't about yesterday or tomorrow. Life is now! The moment contains everything you need to live a life of abundance. The moment is simple, practical and real."

Are you a blissout sufferer? Then transform the fire of bliss into a burning desire to live life. Join the BLISSOUT intervention programme of the International School of Tantra.

REMEMBER: Practice safe bliss!

Martin